Sometimes you just have to let him go...

I spoke to a women's group last night about the frustrations of weight loss. It was a great group of women and it was fun to share with them my top 10 list of tips, based on my experience. Prior to speaking, I had them write down a question they wanted to ask me about weightloss, something they had seen, something they face in their life, etc. Then I answered these questions. A couple of them were honest enough to ask questions about the lack of support at home and how to handle it. I see this all the time. And I've also been through it.

Lack of support at home can be devastating. You have a spouse who SAYS they support you, who wants you to lose weight, maybe even berates you about your weight. But then you start the journey and the one who is supposed to help you and support you the most becomes your biggest detractor. Is it done on purpose? You lose your focus. You start blaming. And this is where some people get stuck.

You've got to just let him GO. If there's one thing I've learned in almost 18 years of marriage, it's that you cannot change a man. You've got to just let him GO. You have got to be so focused, so determined, so mad at your weight problem, that you just let him go on his way and you go yours. YOU do what is right for your body. YOU make the changes you need to. YOU eat right, even when he doesn't. YOU workout, even if he won't do it with you. So many women wait for the right time, they wait for the right support, they falter when he brings home the bad food. And why do they always bring you home the bad food anyway? Duh. I won't go into the mentality of men, jeez, but the point is - JUST LET HIM GO.

Stop using HIM as an excuse for not getting it done. Stop using your kids as an excuse for not getting it done. Just shut up and do it. Use your health journal, do your workouts, EAT CLEAN. And this is important - TAKE THE FOCUS OFF OF HIM AND PUT THE FOCUS ON YOU. Does this mean completely ignoring him? No, not at all, that's not what I'm talking about. But it does mean that you hear the comments and you just let them go. You see the bad food, but you move on, you eat your healthy food and you let it go. You workout and you don't wait for him to tell you "nice job", you TELL YOURSELF that and you let it go.

Don't wait for his approval, make your own. Don't wait for him to EAT healthy like you want him to, do it yourself. YOU BE THE EXAMPLE. YOU BE THE ONE TO MAKE CHANGES. Don't wait on him. Sometimes you just have to let him go...

Weight loss is an emotional battle, but you are strong. Women are strong. And I know you can do it. Just let him go, now you do what you need to do.